life and friendship
I believe in the fundamental goodness in every human being. That is in line with Buddhism as well. But sometimes i cannot help but think that it is, after all, merely fundamental. it takes more than fundament to be considered as good i think.
Sometimes i also thought of this: people would actually appreciate a rare unexpected act of goodness from a supposedly-bad person more than the usual kind deeds of a commonly-known nice person. E.g. people would actually think more highly of Hongming if they found out that he has been sincerely helping in a Orphanage than a Zichao who has been a nice man all the while. People would go like: "hmm...come to think of it he is not as bad as we all think..." and the sooner they would focus their eyes on all his good points and find that: OMG HM is a good man, i am quite touched. whereas for ZC pple would juz go like: nice lo. no OMG no touched. hmmm come to think of it, sometimes we really do take nice pple for granted. maybe a kind deed done too often would not be touching and nice? maybe that partly explain, partly only,男人不坏女人不爱? a rare good deed by a 坏男人 is more touching and "valuable" than the same deed done many times by a 好男人. Hehe, so all the men out there, it PAYS to be bad haha.
Hmm...ok..maybe juz for that moment of realisation. But really, this perception of a person is really relative and subjective.
One more interesting point is that a friend, no matter how nasty and bad he/she is, will be forgiven and accepted, becoz of one word: friend. eg pple would unreservedly condemn vandaliser. however if that vandaliser is a fren of yours, most probably you would juz frown, or even smile at it. eg when yw plucked out the tags at the back of the seats in audi i merely laughed over it even though it is an act that i would have condemned usually. and why did i not flinch at this supposedly bad deed of my fren?
as my msian brothers always say: 男人最重要是三样东西:义气,义气,还有义气. is 义气 really everything? how about universal justice? how about the enemy's justice? but sometimes it really take a lot of courage and personal belief to move beyond 义气. to uphold justice, to safeguard humanity. i know pple might laugh at it as being sanctimonious, but still i believe that "friend" is not the permit for everything. Would you hire a friend or a stranger who display a slightly higher capability? most would choose the former. I think it is only right to choose the latter. But my heart sometimes doesnt guide me to do the right thing. you know, even if that stranger is clearly more capable than my fren, i MIGHTMIGHTMIGHTMIGHT hire my fren, if he is really a close fren of mine. you see, that's why my mind and my heart always contradict. my mind opts for universal justice whereas my heart safeguards my fren's justice.
at the present, i really don't know which part of mine would prevail. meanwhile, i will juz sit at the fence and watch them fight and have a good laugh.
H1 = 君子之交淡如水.
H2 = 红颜如水.
By MI, H1 = H2, so 君子之交 = 红颜 ? :) juz being lame here
Sometimes i also thought of this: people would actually appreciate a rare unexpected act of goodness from a supposedly-bad person more than the usual kind deeds of a commonly-known nice person. E.g. people would actually think more highly of Hongming if they found out that he has been sincerely helping in a Orphanage than a Zichao who has been a nice man all the while. People would go like: "hmm...come to think of it he is not as bad as we all think..." and the sooner they would focus their eyes on all his good points and find that: OMG HM is a good man, i am quite touched. whereas for ZC pple would juz go like: nice lo. no OMG no touched. hmmm come to think of it, sometimes we really do take nice pple for granted. maybe a kind deed done too often would not be touching and nice? maybe that partly explain, partly only,男人不坏女人不爱? a rare good deed by a 坏男人 is more touching and "valuable" than the same deed done many times by a 好男人. Hehe, so all the men out there, it PAYS to be bad haha.
Hmm...ok..maybe juz for that moment of realisation. But really, this perception of a person is really relative and subjective.
One more interesting point is that a friend, no matter how nasty and bad he/she is, will be forgiven and accepted, becoz of one word: friend. eg pple would unreservedly condemn vandaliser. however if that vandaliser is a fren of yours, most probably you would juz frown, or even smile at it. eg when yw plucked out the tags at the back of the seats in audi i merely laughed over it even though it is an act that i would have condemned usually. and why did i not flinch at this supposedly bad deed of my fren?
as my msian brothers always say: 男人最重要是三样东西:义气,义气,还有义气. is 义气 really everything? how about universal justice? how about the enemy's justice? but sometimes it really take a lot of courage and personal belief to move beyond 义气. to uphold justice, to safeguard humanity. i know pple might laugh at it as being sanctimonious, but still i believe that "friend" is not the permit for everything. Would you hire a friend or a stranger who display a slightly higher capability? most would choose the former. I think it is only right to choose the latter. But my heart sometimes doesnt guide me to do the right thing. you know, even if that stranger is clearly more capable than my fren, i MIGHTMIGHTMIGHTMIGHT hire my fren, if he is really a close fren of mine. you see, that's why my mind and my heart always contradict. my mind opts for universal justice whereas my heart safeguards my fren's justice.
at the present, i really don't know which part of mine would prevail. meanwhile, i will juz sit at the fence and watch them fight and have a good laugh.
H1 = 君子之交淡如水.
H2 = 红颜如水.
By MI, H1 = H2, so 君子之交 = 红颜 ? :) juz being lame here
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